Okay.. so there was a time when I promised one of my best friends that I will write a blog mentioning them.. This is the time.
So I will start chronologically..
Anubhav: This guy is my 'bachpan ka dost'... Even if I forget him, he never does. Always in touch. And even if he talkes after a gap of 6 months, hes that good old friend of mine who keeps on scolding me!! :P
Abhi: She is the sweetest friend I made in secondary school. Abhi is probably the first one I ever confided to. I love bitching with her, talking about our lives, others lives, guyz...everything. She is sexy, has a gud sense of fashion, adorable..She has stood by me always. All I can say is that I love her. And if you have been reading this, You are my STRENGTH.
Shweta: She's my best friend till date..We are so close, that we meet almost every weekend. We have been together at school for just two years, but never did we know that we will be lifelong best buddies. She is the one I run to with all my problems. She is 'the only one'!! I cant imagine my life without her, she was there with me when I was low, she has defended me, fought for me and taken my side through adversities. She has a special place in my heart, and I will try and not do anything that could affect our friendship or rather sisterhood. Dont leave me Shweta..I... I dono what would happen then!
Happy and Alok: Alok is the only guy with whom I fight always inspite of sharing same viewpoints. There was a time I couldnt stand him!!! And that has made him special. I had other friends in school and I hated Alok.. but we are great friends now, matured, grown up!! (I hope we will not fight again!!).
Happy is the most cheerful, fun loving, easy, bindaas guy amongst us. I really love being with these two, have spent some of the most beautiful and fun moments of my life with them. Any tension, talk to Alok, he'l not solve it...:D but he'l give you the strength to fight it and Happy would joke it away and make you feel better. I am lucky to get them as my friends.
Vikram: Another bindaas banda!! This guy is a No Show-off guy. Very down to earth yet cool and with a great great sense of homor! His Philosophies.. Ohh..I love them! hehe..I mean he is the one I can ping anytime and bore him. If he doesnt say 'Best of Luck', my exam just wont go well!! He is my good luck charm. I would never want to lose him.
Priyanka Arora, Mayank and Rahul Singh(BR2) : Someone told me that you cant make friends in Office. But I did! Rahul is the one who bears the brunt of my anger!! hehe.. Cause he knows how to pacify me. Mayank is that good guy with good virtues and good advices! He is alwayz on the side opposite me and Priyanka (sobs). Priyanka and me are one good family {;-)}... Together they have made my life at office Awsome!!
Others please watchout for the next one.. i wanted but couldnt include you all.. :)
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Saturday, April 10, 2010
My Enemy..
Sometimes I think I am not the kind of person I usually am. I dont know whether I am good or bad, all I know that I am lost in my decisions.. I am lost in my people.. Im not what I was..I dont know what I am missing but definitely theres something amiss. Wish I could figure it out and make my life complete.. I have everything that a girl my age would want.. a loving family, wonderful friends, an okay job... but there is something I want.. I dont know what.
There are some unfulfilled expectations from people.. cant force people to change. So it seems I have to change my outlook..my expectations and thus, my feelings for them! Im trying to do it..and I hope I will be able to do it soon coz the Dahlia I know is a tough girl. The Dahlia I know is someone who is focussed towards her future, who never gave a damn to what people think of her. All she knows is to Excel....as I write all this now.. I realise I have lost it all.. and then I think I was correct in thinking that I am lost!!
I have stagnated, the world has gone far. I have to double or maybe triple my velocity to keep up with my surroundings..but I lack the urge, the desire! Its the first time that I am feeling dead. I dont want to go and compete with the world over meaningless things. I dont want myself to do what others want me to do.. I want to live on my own..I want to do what I feel like doing.. I dont want to prove my worth, my importance to people. Im tired of that. I dont want to become a puppet I have been since the last 2-3 years.
People who know me would never believe I am writing this.. coz they have known Dahlia, not me.. they dont know that I exist. But I do..and I have taken over Dahlia's life and stopped buzzing. I am my biggest enemy.
There are some unfulfilled expectations from people.. cant force people to change. So it seems I have to change my outlook..my expectations and thus, my feelings for them! Im trying to do it..and I hope I will be able to do it soon coz the Dahlia I know is a tough girl. The Dahlia I know is someone who is focussed towards her future, who never gave a damn to what people think of her. All she knows is to Excel....as I write all this now.. I realise I have lost it all.. and then I think I was correct in thinking that I am lost!!
I have stagnated, the world has gone far. I have to double or maybe triple my velocity to keep up with my surroundings..but I lack the urge, the desire! Its the first time that I am feeling dead. I dont want to go and compete with the world over meaningless things. I dont want myself to do what others want me to do.. I want to live on my own..I want to do what I feel like doing.. I dont want to prove my worth, my importance to people. Im tired of that. I dont want to become a puppet I have been since the last 2-3 years.
People who know me would never believe I am writing this.. coz they have known Dahlia, not me.. they dont know that I exist. But I do..and I have taken over Dahlia's life and stopped buzzing. I am my biggest enemy.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Back to Friends
Well... last time I talked about friends...it was a great feeling.
This time its a troubled feeling...
When your life runs smoothly, friends add hue to it. When you are troubled, they remove the grey lines. But what happens when you know that there is a grey line in a friend's life and in the process of removing that, your friend turns away from you???
Well this is regarding a female friend of mine... who is facing problems at workplace. She didn't have the courage to talk about it to her parents. Being my best friend, she entrusted me with it! Now that I knew it, I couldnt let her work there... and everything I said started going against me. I tried to convince her to talk to her parents or to her sis if not her dad.. But she started ignoring me. She is of the thought that her evaluation would suffer if she brings up the issue in the office, and would be kind of emprisoned if she tells it to her parents.
Our parents would never take a wrong decision for us, nor would they ever think of jeopardising our future. If they trust us, they would not make us pay for something we didnt do!!
But probably she didnt want to listen to me. I dont know how any rating can be more than respect! Any firm can never evaluate me to the best of my abilities..and so for such an evaluation I cant stake myself, my integrity and my values.
But this thought of mine intensified the gap she has created...I am still not sure what she thinks. If she doesnt like it, why does she let it happen? And I dont want to believe she would like it!
She has always been strong, both in terms of mind and might... I dont know what keeps her mum this time. I know her keeping shut is dangerous and I dont want her to harm herself, but I cant gather up the strength and inform her parents. Moreover, I'm sure she would not like my going to her parents. Coz she has lately been disliking my thoughts over this issue.
I seek strength from other friends of mine...to come to a decision... My friendship with her is on a toss right now and the worse that can happen, would be that she would never talk to me.. but if she's safe, sooner or later she'll realize we were on the same side! But till then, she'll hate me!!
This time its a troubled feeling...
When your life runs smoothly, friends add hue to it. When you are troubled, they remove the grey lines. But what happens when you know that there is a grey line in a friend's life and in the process of removing that, your friend turns away from you???
Well this is regarding a female friend of mine... who is facing problems at workplace. She didn't have the courage to talk about it to her parents. Being my best friend, she entrusted me with it! Now that I knew it, I couldnt let her work there... and everything I said started going against me. I tried to convince her to talk to her parents or to her sis if not her dad.. But she started ignoring me. She is of the thought that her evaluation would suffer if she brings up the issue in the office, and would be kind of emprisoned if she tells it to her parents.
Our parents would never take a wrong decision for us, nor would they ever think of jeopardising our future. If they trust us, they would not make us pay for something we didnt do!!
But probably she didnt want to listen to me. I dont know how any rating can be more than respect! Any firm can never evaluate me to the best of my abilities..and so for such an evaluation I cant stake myself, my integrity and my values.
But this thought of mine intensified the gap she has created...I am still not sure what she thinks. If she doesnt like it, why does she let it happen? And I dont want to believe she would like it!
She has always been strong, both in terms of mind and might... I dont know what keeps her mum this time. I know her keeping shut is dangerous and I dont want her to harm herself, but I cant gather up the strength and inform her parents. Moreover, I'm sure she would not like my going to her parents. Coz she has lately been disliking my thoughts over this issue.
I seek strength from other friends of mine...to come to a decision... My friendship with her is on a toss right now and the worse that can happen, would be that she would never talk to me.. but if she's safe, sooner or later she'll realize we were on the same side! But till then, she'll hate me!!
My Religion..
The other day someone asked me if I believe in 'Sai Baba' or not.... Tricky question..
If I ask myself, I cant differentiate my feelings when I am in Sai Baba's Mandir or Shivji's Mandir or a Church or a Gurudwara.. or for that matter even a Mosque.
When I am in there, all I can think of is "A" God, who can bless me, who can strengthen me. Not the principles that lay there in the belief of 'that' God!!
I believe that God is the creator of humanity. He knows our needs and gives us the opportunities to fulfil them. Its upto us to identify those and take the requisite steps. He can be Jesus, Krishna or Allah...depends on how we see him. All that matters is the form in which we idolize him and that differentiates us as Christians, Hindus, Muslims or Sikhs. But Im sure all He wants is our well being whosoever He is!
As for me, I believe if I can bow for the 20,000 (or so) Hindu Gods...(im not sure how many Hindu Gods are idolized...but thats not the questions here.), I can also bow for 1 Jesus, 1 Allah and so on and so forth. I would connect to 'The' same God through any of them.
I am not patronising any Religion here, nor defaming any. What I want to say is that the hatred for other Religion seems petty to me. The fights over praying places and religious ceremonies are nothing but things to keep people distracted. Im sure no Religion preaches inhumanity and display of hostility against other kinds of worship.
Its not modern thinking..its rational thinking. I have my faiths and I would not want others to preach for me. I would do what I want to do and believe in things I think are right (all of us do that right?). Then why do we interfare with other's beliefs? Why dont we let people pray the way they are accustomed to? Why do we fight over worshipping places? Where on earth is it written that A Temple and A Mosque cant stand together? Who has seen God preaching the demolishion of all other religious beliefs?
Well, it can go on and on.. but I just want all of us to think that up there, there's just ONE GOD!! We love him in our form and by defying other Religions, we are defying him. I want us to respect all the Religions and pray the way we are comfortable. I want all of us to get above such differences and focus on other pressing issues.
If I ask myself, I cant differentiate my feelings when I am in Sai Baba's Mandir or Shivji's Mandir or a Church or a Gurudwara.. or for that matter even a Mosque.
When I am in there, all I can think of is "A" God, who can bless me, who can strengthen me. Not the principles that lay there in the belief of 'that' God!!
I believe that God is the creator of humanity. He knows our needs and gives us the opportunities to fulfil them. Its upto us to identify those and take the requisite steps. He can be Jesus, Krishna or Allah...depends on how we see him. All that matters is the form in which we idolize him and that differentiates us as Christians, Hindus, Muslims or Sikhs. But Im sure all He wants is our well being whosoever He is!
As for me, I believe if I can bow for the 20,000 (or so) Hindu Gods...(im not sure how many Hindu Gods are idolized...but thats not the questions here.), I can also bow for 1 Jesus, 1 Allah and so on and so forth. I would connect to 'The' same God through any of them.
I am not patronising any Religion here, nor defaming any. What I want to say is that the hatred for other Religion seems petty to me. The fights over praying places and religious ceremonies are nothing but things to keep people distracted. Im sure no Religion preaches inhumanity and display of hostility against other kinds of worship.
Its not modern thinking..its rational thinking. I have my faiths and I would not want others to preach for me. I would do what I want to do and believe in things I think are right (all of us do that right?). Then why do we interfare with other's beliefs? Why dont we let people pray the way they are accustomed to? Why do we fight over worshipping places? Where on earth is it written that A Temple and A Mosque cant stand together? Who has seen God preaching the demolishion of all other religious beliefs?
Well, it can go on and on.. but I just want all of us to think that up there, there's just ONE GOD!! We love him in our form and by defying other Religions, we are defying him. I want us to respect all the Religions and pray the way we are comfortable. I want all of us to get above such differences and focus on other pressing issues.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Our Decisions.
So what do we do when we have a decision to make??
Many of us think that we are very good decision makers. But the question is after making a decision how many of us put our 100% into it? How many of us respect our decision and not regret it later? And, how many of us dont blame others for the consequences of our decisions?
Surprise!!! Its human to do all the above!!!!!!
If you decide something, it doesnt mean that the decision is rigid!!
The success of a decision depends not on the extent to which you stick to it, but on the happiness and contentment of all those who are affected by it.
And while im writing this, im thinking of my Mom and Dad, and whether they would be happy with me pursuing my design dreams... :D
(Sometimes a smile on the faces of our loved ones is all that we strive for right??? )
Decisions whether small or big are taken keeping in mind all the pros and cons...but our self-centric mind doesnt think of others while making the decision. All I want us to have is some room for flexibility.. flexibility for people who matter, who might or would be affected by our decisions.
Showing our solidarity for decisions taken by us is worth accolading, but if people who love us suffer because of it..theres nothing worse!
Many of us think that we are very good decision makers. But the question is after making a decision how many of us put our 100% into it? How many of us respect our decision and not regret it later? And, how many of us dont blame others for the consequences of our decisions?
Surprise!!! Its human to do all the above!!!!!!
If you decide something, it doesnt mean that the decision is rigid!!
The success of a decision depends not on the extent to which you stick to it, but on the happiness and contentment of all those who are affected by it.
And while im writing this, im thinking of my Mom and Dad, and whether they would be happy with me pursuing my design dreams... :D
(Sometimes a smile on the faces of our loved ones is all that we strive for right??? )
Decisions whether small or big are taken keeping in mind all the pros and cons...but our self-centric mind doesnt think of others while making the decision. All I want us to have is some room for flexibility.. flexibility for people who matter, who might or would be affected by our decisions.
Showing our solidarity for decisions taken by us is worth accolading, but if people who love us suffer because of it..theres nothing worse!
Saturday, December 26, 2009
its different this time....
Well, i dont really like cribbing about things... this didnt happen, that isnt what i wanted and all that stuff! But i understand that sometimes this is the only thing that you can do to make you feel good about something.
I have this friend of mine who is hell of an achiever but just cant stop cribbing!!! Hes in a premier B-School now and all that he complains now of is that his life is crippled and he doesnt get to eat what he wants!! I understand that staying away from home is difficult, specially for those who have been pampered at home like my friend, but dude you cant stay at home forever!! You have to step up and make your destiny. And its for your own future.
We all adjust to situations, try to fit into the surroundings for our survival just to get the best out of life. If we spend half the time cribbing about it, even the future that we envisaged wouldnt be as cheerful as we think it would have been. Coz, by the time we reach our "future", we pick up the habit of cribbing!! And then, it would be our relationships that we crib about.
Infact I think that its a vicious circle... we aspire for something, we crib about not getting that thing... we get it.. and then we crib about that thing. I have an instance here again, I have a friend, 'happily' in love with her boyfriend. When she was single, she used to call me everyday to express her disstisfaction of not getting a boyfriend!! (my mom almost thought I was having an affair!!). So, when her efforts paid off and she got herself a boyfriend.. the 1st 2-3 months were "lonely" for me :D! Soonafter, she resumed her daily routine of calling me and this time the discussions focussed on how insensitive her boyfriend was! Man!! Why cant we keep our expectations out of somethings??? She has till date 3 boyfriends to her credit and she even cribbs that!!!!
Anyway, the point of focus was cribbing and not my sweet friend! We all say that Im not the one who likes cribbing, but given situations, sometimes its the best thing to do to console yourself. Like, when you leave your debit card in the machine and back in the car you realise your loss. It was just becoz of the person next in queue that you had to hurry and so you left it there!!
My take: Crib Crib and Crib... but not always, not to everyone, not about everything.
Take responsibility of your actions. If something wrong has happened, it has happened coz you have let it happen. So dont blame others as if it never dawned on you. You knew it was wrong and you still let it happen. Digest the facts and go about minding your business. You'll be a happier person.
I have this friend of mine who is hell of an achiever but just cant stop cribbing!!! Hes in a premier B-School now and all that he complains now of is that his life is crippled and he doesnt get to eat what he wants!! I understand that staying away from home is difficult, specially for those who have been pampered at home like my friend, but dude you cant stay at home forever!! You have to step up and make your destiny. And its for your own future.
We all adjust to situations, try to fit into the surroundings for our survival just to get the best out of life. If we spend half the time cribbing about it, even the future that we envisaged wouldnt be as cheerful as we think it would have been. Coz, by the time we reach our "future", we pick up the habit of cribbing!! And then, it would be our relationships that we crib about.
Infact I think that its a vicious circle... we aspire for something, we crib about not getting that thing... we get it.. and then we crib about that thing. I have an instance here again, I have a friend, 'happily' in love with her boyfriend. When she was single, she used to call me everyday to express her disstisfaction of not getting a boyfriend!! (my mom almost thought I was having an affair!!). So, when her efforts paid off and she got herself a boyfriend.. the 1st 2-3 months were "lonely" for me :D! Soonafter, she resumed her daily routine of calling me and this time the discussions focussed on how insensitive her boyfriend was! Man!! Why cant we keep our expectations out of somethings??? She has till date 3 boyfriends to her credit and she even cribbs that!!!!
Anyway, the point of focus was cribbing and not my sweet friend! We all say that Im not the one who likes cribbing, but given situations, sometimes its the best thing to do to console yourself. Like, when you leave your debit card in the machine and back in the car you realise your loss. It was just becoz of the person next in queue that you had to hurry and so you left it there!!
My take: Crib Crib and Crib... but not always, not to everyone, not about everything.
Take responsibility of your actions. If something wrong has happened, it has happened coz you have let it happen. So dont blame others as if it never dawned on you. You knew it was wrong and you still let it happen. Digest the facts and go about minding your business. You'll be a happier person.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Trust
One of the pillars that gives strength to any relationship.. yes! It is Trust.
When do we know we trust someone?
Whenever I start thinking of him/her as a friend.. when I go to him/her with all my problems. When I tell him/her I am scared of a Lizard and I know that he/she would never play a prank on me with a lizard.
When I decide that I will go for the trip iff he/she would go. When I tell him/her I feel for that hottie!!
It is something which developes all by itself.. It is independent of the amount of time you spend together.. You cant compel anyone to trust you and similarly you yourself cant trust anyone and everyone. It "happens" with some special people.
When you trust you can do anything...inorder to keep up the trust. You surpass your abilities just to make those who trust and love you, gleam with pride. It feels great to be trusted.. to know people believe you. And whenever you are dim.. a simple "I believe you can do it" is a lifesaver!!
Trust is like a Mirror.. you trust and you get trust back. But if you break it, you never get it back. Its like the crack which can be mended but it never really gets ameliorated.
Its the basis of all relationships on Earth... without which life cant be worth living... without which there is a gap..a gap that can be filled by nothing else on the planet because until you trust someone you cant love him/her. Its necessitates the presence of harmony in your life.
The moral of this article is NOT to trust people blindly, but to NEVER break trust. Its the biggest wealth that anyone confers on you. Treasure it.
When do we know we trust someone?
Whenever I start thinking of him/her as a friend.. when I go to him/her with all my problems. When I tell him/her I am scared of a Lizard and I know that he/she would never play a prank on me with a lizard.
When I decide that I will go for the trip iff he/she would go. When I tell him/her I feel for that hottie!!
It is something which developes all by itself.. It is independent of the amount of time you spend together.. You cant compel anyone to trust you and similarly you yourself cant trust anyone and everyone. It "happens" with some special people.
When you trust you can do anything...inorder to keep up the trust. You surpass your abilities just to make those who trust and love you, gleam with pride. It feels great to be trusted.. to know people believe you. And whenever you are dim.. a simple "I believe you can do it" is a lifesaver!!
Trust is like a Mirror.. you trust and you get trust back. But if you break it, you never get it back. Its like the crack which can be mended but it never really gets ameliorated.
Its the basis of all relationships on Earth... without which life cant be worth living... without which there is a gap..a gap that can be filled by nothing else on the planet because until you trust someone you cant love him/her. Its necessitates the presence of harmony in your life.
The moral of this article is NOT to trust people blindly, but to NEVER break trust. Its the biggest wealth that anyone confers on you. Treasure it.
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