My South Trip - Final Version

So my long trip to South ended way bak last month (17th october i came back) and unlike Chennai, i loved the rest of the journey. Its pretty long i wrote this, but I really gotta write this.

The only word that comes to my mind is Awesome! The backwaters of Kerala, or Kovalam Beach near Trivendrum (it is the best beach I came across in south, Mahabalipuram ranks 2nd), its simply Amazing. The Arabian Sea at its vigour at the backwaters, the lovely waves of Kovalam beach helps me forget my food woes ;).

The journey from Chennai started with our going to Rameshwaram (the mandir there is good but not well maintained, and there is no beach), Madurai (Meenaxi Temple is the only attraction) to Kodai Kanal (a hillstation in south!). Kodai is beautiful, it even rained there and it was chilly. Then Backwaters and Kovalam Beach made the list look as if it was going from worse to best! Finally, Kanyakumari happened. Its the best place on Earth! I am in love with that place. (More so because I got bong food there :D). But i have developed a special liking for Kanyakumari and I found the people pretty helpful here. The sight of Three Oceans meeting was truly wonderful and I believe every one should, once in life, visit this place. There is a different aura, the wind, the sun, everything makes you feel great :).

The trip ended with Koimbatore and there wasnt much that is worth describing. One odd thing I noticed in Chennai was that in evenings people put on jackets even if its still hot! (maybe it was hot only for us!! im not laughing). In a nut shell, all I can say is that it was a good and diverse experience. And the only place I look forward to visiting again is... any guesses?? Kanyakumari :)

My South Trip - Part 2

I left the last blog in mid way.. with a feeling of disgust and displeasure.

I dont say my feelings for Chennai have changed, but I didnt interact with the natives today (not with what happened yesterday) and thankfully the picturesque view of Mahabalipuram washed away the grim picture, atleast for now!

The beach was awesome, probably the best one I have been till date! The waves, the air (the wind I must say), the sun..everything was PERFECT! I loved capturing them all in my digicam, and with every pic I thought of becoming a photographer (but it was the scenic beauty that was the reason for the great pics, not my capability as a photographer!!)

And all this was bliss until I reached Chennai again, and it didnt take long to reach Chennai from Mahabalipuram as it took to get back home in Chennai. I dont know what connection I have with this place, but I just am not getting a good picture of this place.

I am leaving this place tomorrow, and would return here on 17th and I am looking forward to it (actually Im looking forward to getting back to Delhi, and my flight is from Chennai!!)

But I, for the first time, liked staying at home here..at my brother's place and if I return to Chennai, I would miss his home if I dont come here. :) (Dont worry bro, I'm not coming to Chennai for long ;) like I said, if possible I will not come before my next birth!! so relax!!)

Next I would not crib.. TO BE CONTINUED ;)

My South Trip Part 1

Well I go on such kinds of vacations every year but this one is special!! Yes, its because its a South
Trip. My First South Trip. And the next south trip be soon..My next Birth!!!!

What went wrong? Nothing actually. The weather is better than what it is the whole year! And I have everything, A chauffeur driven car, an AC room, a lappy, a novel and most importantly Holidays!
What is amiss? Warmth of feelings. Cheerful Faces. Helpful smiles. Being a delhiite, I really am missing all this. And this is what i feel is the essence.

Day 1 Chennai: I reach at 8 pm after a horrible flight with Indigo. Sorry but Id rather prefer saying DontgoIndigo!!! It really sucks! Thankfully I met my cousin after a long time, and that saved my day! Didnt sleep the entire night..cant say why.. :P

Day 2 Chennai: Lazying around. Exploring my cousin's belongings!! :P and ordering food! Spent the evening at Asia's longest beach. And then a surprize!! 10:30 pm Volvo to Tirupati. I thought I would take a two night's sleep in the bus. So I got all geared up for Balaji Darshan at Tirupati!!
And the surprize starts now... It wasnt a volvo, it was a Traveller!! I got a single seat and spent another sleepless night. But I knew, I'd get some sleep before the Darshan.

Surprize!!!! We reach Tirupati at 02:30 am and we are given half an hour's time by the travel agent to get ready to get the tickets to Tirupati. So I was standing in a line at 03:30 pm for the counter which opens at 5! The counters open and I get my finger printed ticket to Tirupati, and I take the beautiful lanes connecting Tirupati and Tirumala. Amazingly beautiful I could have said..but I didnt register much of it. So I missed one of the most awaited part of my trip. :(
@7:30 I was in a mad line full of bald south indians (no racism intended!! ) pushing each other out of their ways, as if its not an idol we were about to pray to, but the god himself. As the wait grew endless, the mob got fiercer and it was difficult to stay put. I didnt walk, i was pushed till the end.

Negative point(s): I had never seen a pilgrimage, where you are discriminated on the basis of the amount printed on your ticket! VIP's, defense personnels, TV and film personalities do get privileges, but normal people?? gime a break!! The native people there have this tremendous capability of pushing people out of their way to get to their. And hospitality.. They know nothing about it, they prefer Hospitals!!

Im not being against people there, but if I find an outsider in Delhi, I will try and help that person to the best of my ability. Alas, everyone doesnt feel the same way.

Im so tired that I have not included everything i felt during the 5 hours i spent inside the temple. But one thing is for sure, except the darshan part, I didnt quite like it. (And if you girls have been there, you must be aware of the stares that they they give you if you are fair! I dont know the logic, but all of them just keep on looking at you as if you are a foreigner!!) And i had decided then and there, I will write a blog regarding this.

The other best part, I came back to my cousin by 6 pm! And since then, Im having a good time. (Ofcourse, I love writing this!)

To be continued..

A peep into my mind!!

Since a long long time I had thought of penning down my thoughts about you. I would definitely want you to read this even though I know that there is a high probability that you might not know I wrote this and I wrote this for you. And if you read it, please read it in its entirity.

It might sound cliched..but I am writing this just to let you know the depth of my feelings for you... in such a public forum..(dont worry, I'm not posting it anywhere!! )

Dont know where to start from. Maybe the first thing I do everyday.. When I get up in the morning, I think of you, my day starts with you, the prime objective is to meet You. Trust me, the day when I dont get to meet you, I dont even wana get up! I dono why but when I express myself..it comes out as a typical Bollywood Dialogue!!!

My life doesnt revolve around me, it revolves around you... your health, your likes, your wish, your dislikes etc etc etc. Sometimes I think I am going crazy. I have been in this thinking mode since I met you. And dont you think I think too much? Well, even I cant help it!!

I dont do things for myself, whatever I do has got something to do with you. I loooooove scolding you, my day is incomplete without shouting on you, I like the way you obey me sometimes and the way you sometimes overrule me.. I dont know why but I feel as if there is no one who can stop you from doing anything, except me. I cant let you do something that is wrong for you or for anyone, something that could harm you in present or in future. (Your past is something I have no control upon.)

I dont want you to change, I liked you for what you were, and I still like you for what you are. The way you smile, the way you laugh, the way you look, the way you talk (even though not everything you talk :) ). My life has shrinked to the time that I spend with you, I dont remember what I do the entire day, but I remember the colour of your Shirt!! I dont notice my surroundings, thats so unusual of me.. but I know when you need water! I know when you are upset (and sometimes even the reason), or tensed, or sad, or very happy. I just know it! You dont need to change yourself for others, coz they dont care what you are, but if someone cares, he/she might not be complaining for no reason. Your likes and dislikes are limited, not what everyone does, but that doesnt mean that you are less than anyone.

I have never thought about anyone like this.. so obviously there is something in you that my heart is glued to yours. I dont care about worldly things, coz there is something money can never buy.. My Heart..My Happiness..My Feelings.. Happiness is something very specific to individuals. For me its not sitting inside an AC Room and watching rainfall, but standing in the rain probably searching for a shed! Or standing beneath a tree, getting drenched and still thinking as if the tree saved me. Its not a dinner in any 5-Star Hotel, but a cozy one at a restaurant. Im not a show off.. I like limelight, but for the good reasons. I would be happy if people think Im Intelligent and rather than being called Sexy or Hot! I can do what all other girls can do too, but I choose not to, bcoz I believe that humans are not good or bad by birth, its the choices they make and the decisions they take, that make them good or bad.

I know you would not read it, its sooooo big!! But I want to write...I want to say more.
I love the way you handle things, the way you deal with your personal problems. And I am soo sorry that I could not do anything anytime. Sometimes, you are so helpless, that you cant do what you want. You know what I am talking about. Those are the times when I feel that all I have for you is the emotional support, and I really dont know if you need that!

There are times that I am tooo angry with you, but thats a part and parcel of life right? You get the good things and you get the bad things as well. You cant do anything about it! All I want is that in future, I dont regret that I didnt give us a chance. I dont know if I have a future without us.. but I just dont want to bang my head with someone who is rich but who doesnt understand me, who is intelligent but doesnt care for me, who is handsome but doesnt love me! But if you're that someone, I would not be happy with you too. There is something that I value to death, LOYALTY.. I can give my life to prove I am loyal and I expect the same. Any relationship for me is TRUST. No Trust No Friendship/Relationship. And about my ego...well it gets activated with egoists..if you are egoistic, I will be two steps ahead of you. If you are not, Im two steps behind.

The end of it?? I dint write everything on my mind! But I had to end it anyway! So, I am there for you till the time you are with me. The best way to go away from me is to break my trust (and you know you have to be disloyal). One piece of advice: Always think what you have and what others crave for and value it. Coz if you ignore it, the thing might be lost and you might never ever in your life get it back. It might seem tough to hold onto it, but once lost, it would be tougher to retrieve it. And yes you are thinking right!

Last line.. you know what! (wink)!!
Dahlia

My Friends

Okay.. so there was a time when I promised one of my best friends that I will write a blog mentioning them.. This is the time.

So I will start chronologically..
Anubhav: This guy is my 'bachpan ka dost'... Even if I forget him, he never does. Always in touch. And even if he talkes after a gap of 6 months, hes that good old friend of mine who keeps on scolding me!! :P

Abhi: She is the sweetest friend I made in secondary school. Abhi is probably the first one I ever confided to. I love bitching with her, talking about our lives, others lives, guyz...everything. She is sexy, has a gud sense of fashion, adorable..She has stood by me always. All I can say is that I love her. And if you have been reading this, You are my STRENGTH.

Shweta: She's my best friend till date..We are so close, that we meet almost every weekend. We have been together at school for just two years, but never did we know that we will be lifelong best buddies. She is the one I run to with all my problems. She is 'the only one'!! I cant imagine my life without her, she was there with me when I was low, she has defended me, fought for me and taken my side through adversities. She has a special place in my heart, and I will try and not do anything that could affect our friendship or rather sisterhood. Dont leave me Shweta..I... I dono what would happen then!

Happy and Alok: Alok is the only guy with whom I fight always inspite of sharing same viewpoints. There was a time I couldnt stand him!!! And that has made him special. I had other friends in school and I hated Alok.. but we are great friends now, matured, grown up!! (I hope we will not fight again!!).
Happy is the most cheerful, fun loving, easy, bindaas guy amongst us. I really love being with these two, have spent some of the most beautiful and fun moments of my life with them. Any tension, talk to Alok, he'l not solve it...:D but he'l give you the strength to fight it and Happy would joke it away and make you feel better. I am lucky to get them as my friends.

Vikram: Another bindaas banda!! This guy is a No Show-off guy. Very down to earth yet cool and with a great great sense of homor! His Philosophies.. Ohh..I love them! hehe..I mean he is the one I can ping anytime and bore him. If he doesnt say 'Best of Luck', my exam just wont go well!! He is my good luck charm. I would never want to lose him.

Priyanka Arora, Mayank and Rahul Singh(BR2) : Someone told me that you cant make friends in Office. But I did! Rahul is the one who bears the brunt of my anger!! hehe.. Cause he knows how to pacify me. Mayank is that good guy with good virtues and good advices! He is alwayz on the side opposite me and Priyanka (sobs). Priyanka and me are one good family {;-)}... Together they have made my life at office Awsome!!

Others please watchout for the next one.. i wanted but couldnt include you all.. :)

My Enemy..

Sometimes I think I am not the kind of person I usually am. I dont know whether I am good or bad, all I know that I am lost in my decisions.. I am lost in my people.. Im not what I was..I dont know what I am missing but definitely theres something amiss. Wish I could figure it out and make my life complete.. I have everything that a girl my age would want.. a loving family, wonderful friends, an okay job... but there is something I want.. I dont know what.

There are some unfulfilled expectations from people.. cant force people to change. So it seems I have to change my outlook..my expectations and thus, my feelings for them! Im trying to do it..and I hope I will be able to do it soon coz the Dahlia I know is a tough girl. The Dahlia I know is someone who is focussed towards her future, who never gave a damn to what people think of her. All she knows is to Excel....as I write all this now.. I realise I have lost it all.. and then I think I was correct in thinking that I am lost!!

I have stagnated, the world has gone far. I have to double or maybe triple my velocity to keep up with my surroundings..but I lack the urge, the desire! Its the first time that I am feeling dead. I dont want to go and compete with the world over meaningless things. I dont want myself to do what others want me to do.. I want to live on my own..I want to do what I feel like doing.. I dont want to prove my worth, my importance to people. Im tired of that. I dont want to become a puppet I have been since the last 2-3 years.

People who know me would never believe I am writing this.. coz they have known Dahlia, not me.. they dont know that I exist. But I do..and I have taken over Dahlia's life and stopped buzzing. I am my biggest enemy.

Back to Friends

Well... last time I talked about friends...it was a great feeling.
This time its a troubled feeling...


When your life runs smoothly, friends add hue to it. When you are troubled, they remove the grey lines. But what happens when you know that there is a grey line in a friend's life and in the process of removing that, your friend turns away from you???

Well this is regarding a female friend of mine... who is facing problems at workplace. She didn't have the courage to talk about it to her parents. Being my best friend, she entrusted me with it! Now that I knew it, I couldnt let her work there... and everything I said started going against me. I tried to convince her to talk to her parents or to her sis if not her dad.. But she started ignoring me. She is of the thought that her evaluation would suffer if she brings up the issue in the office, and would be kind of emprisoned if she tells it to her parents.

Our parents would never take a wrong decision for us, nor would they ever think of jeopardising our future. If they trust us, they would not make us pay for something we didnt do!!
But probably she didnt want to listen to me. I dont know how any rating can be more than respect! Any firm can never evaluate me to the best of my abilities..and so for such an evaluation I cant stake myself, my integrity and my values.

But this thought of mine intensified the gap she has created...I am still not sure what she thinks. If she doesnt like it, why does she let it happen? And I dont want to believe she would like it!
She has always been strong, both in terms of mind and might... I dont know what keeps her mum this time. I know her keeping shut is dangerous and I dont want her to harm herself, but I cant gather up the strength and inform her parents. Moreover, I'm sure she would not like my going to her parents. Coz she has lately been disliking my thoughts over this issue.

I seek strength from other friends of mine...to come to a decision... My friendship with her is on a toss right now and the worse that can happen, would be that she would never talk to me.. but if she's safe, sooner or later she'll realize we were on the same side! But till then, she'll hate me!!

My Religion..

The other day someone asked me if I believe in 'Sai Baba' or not.... Tricky question..

If I ask myself, I cant differentiate my feelings when I am in Sai Baba's Mandir or Shivji's Mandir or a Church or a Gurudwara.. or for that matter even a Mosque.
When I am in there, all I can think of is "A" God, who can bless me, who can strengthen me. Not the principles that lay there in the belief of 'that' God!!

I believe that God is the creator of humanity. He knows our needs and gives us the opportunities to fulfil them. Its upto us to identify those and take the requisite steps. He can be Jesus, Krishna or Allah...depends on how we see him. All that matters is the form in which we idolize him and that differentiates us as Christians, Hindus, Muslims or Sikhs. But Im sure all He wants is our well being whosoever He is!

As for me, I believe if I can bow for the 20,000 (or so) Hindu Gods...(im not sure how many Hindu Gods are idolized...but thats not the questions here.), I can also bow for 1 Jesus, 1 Allah and so on and so forth. I would connect to 'The' same God through any of them.

I am not patronising any Religion here, nor defaming any. What I want to say is that the hatred for other Religion seems petty to me. The fights over praying places and religious ceremonies are nothing but things to keep people distracted. Im sure no Religion preaches inhumanity and display of hostility against other kinds of worship.

Its not modern thinking..its rational thinking. I have my faiths and I would not want others to preach for me. I would do what I want to do and believe in things I think are right (all of us do that right?). Then why do we interfare with other's beliefs? Why dont we let people pray the way they are accustomed to? Why do we fight over worshipping places? Where on earth is it written that A Temple and A Mosque cant stand together? Who has seen God preaching the demolishion of all other religious beliefs?

Well, it can go on and on.. but I just want all of us to think that up there, there's just ONE GOD!! We love him in our form and by defying other Religions, we are defying him. I want us to respect all the Religions and pray the way we are comfortable. I want all of us to get above such differences and focus on other pressing issues.

Our Decisions.

So what do we do when we have a decision to make??

Many of us think that we are very good decision makers. But the question is after making a decision how many of us put our 100% into it? How many of us respect our decision and not regret it later? And, how many of us dont blame others for the consequences of our decisions?

Surprise!!! Its human to do all the above!!!!!!

If you decide something, it doesnt mean that the decision is rigid!!
The success of a decision depends not on the extent to which you stick to it, but on the happiness and contentment of all those who are affected by it.
And while im writing this, im thinking of my Mom and Dad, and whether they would be happy with me pursuing my design dreams... :D
(Sometimes a smile on the faces of our loved ones is all that we strive for right??? )

Decisions whether small or big are taken keeping in mind all the pros and cons...but our self-centric mind doesnt think of others while making the decision. All I want us to have is some room for flexibility.. flexibility for people who matter, who might or would be affected by our decisions.

Showing our solidarity for decisions taken by us is worth accolading, but if people who love us suffer because of it..theres nothing worse!

its different this time....

Well, i dont really like cribbing about things... this didnt happen, that isnt what i wanted and all that stuff! But i understand that sometimes this is the only thing that you can do to make you feel good about something.

I have this friend of mine who is hell of an achiever but just cant stop cribbing!!! Hes in a premier B-School now and all that he complains now of is that his life is crippled and he doesnt get to eat what he wants!! I understand that staying away from home is difficult, specially for those who have been pampered at home like my friend, but dude you cant stay at home forever!! You have to step up and make your destiny. And its for your own future.

We all adjust to situations, try to fit into the surroundings for our survival just to get the best out of life. If we spend half the time cribbing about it, even the future that we envisaged wouldnt be as cheerful as we think it would have been. Coz, by the time we reach our "future", we pick up the habit of cribbing!! And then, it would be our relationships that we crib about.

Infact I think that its a vicious circle... we aspire for something, we crib about not getting that thing... we get it.. and then we crib about that thing. I have an instance here again, I have a friend, 'happily' in love with her boyfriend. When she was single, she used to call me everyday to express her disstisfaction of not getting a boyfriend!! (my mom almost thought I was having an affair!!). So, when her efforts paid off and she got herself a boyfriend.. the 1st 2-3 months were "lonely" for me :D! Soonafter, she resumed her daily routine of calling me and this time the discussions focussed on how insensitive her boyfriend was! Man!! Why cant we keep our expectations out of somethings??? She has till date 3 boyfriends to her credit and she even cribbs that!!!!

Anyway, the point of focus was cribbing and not my sweet friend! We all say that Im not the one who likes cribbing, but given situations, sometimes its the best thing to do to console yourself. Like, when you leave your debit card in the machine and back in the car you realise your loss. It was just becoz of the person next in queue that you had to hurry and so you left it there!!

My take: Crib Crib and Crib... but not always, not to everyone, not about everything.
Take responsibility of your actions. If something wrong has happened, it has happened coz you have let it happen. So dont blame others as if it never dawned on you. You knew it was wrong and you still let it happen. Digest the facts and go about minding your business. You'll be a happier person.

Trust

One of the pillars that gives strength to any relationship.. yes! It is Trust.

When do we know we trust someone?
Whenever I start thinking of him/her as a friend.. when I go to him/her with all my problems. When I tell him/her I am scared of a Lizard and I know that he/she would never play a prank on me with a lizard.
When I decide that I will go for the trip iff he/she would go. When I tell him/her I feel for that hottie!!
It is something which developes all by itself.. It is independent of the amount of time you spend together.. You cant compel anyone to trust you and similarly you yourself cant trust anyone and everyone. It "happens" with some special people.

When you trust you can do anything...inorder to keep up the trust. You surpass your abilities just to make those who trust and love you, gleam with pride. It feels great to be trusted.. to know people believe you. And whenever you are dim.. a simple "I believe you can do it" is a lifesaver!!

Trust is like a Mirror.. you trust and you get trust back. But if you break it, you never get it back. Its like the crack which can be mended but it never really gets ameliorated.

Its the basis of all relationships on Earth... without which life cant be worth living... without which there is a gap..a gap that can be filled by nothing else on the planet because until you trust someone you cant love him/her. Its necessitates the presence of harmony in your life.

The moral of this article is NOT to trust people blindly, but to NEVER break trust. Its the biggest wealth that anyone confers on you. Treasure it.

Love is for a moment, Friends are FOREVER!!!!

I mean it again!!!!
Im not talking about the feeling called "Love"...dont think I can do justice to it!!
What Im here for is friends... Id rather call them saviours...coz be whatever, through thick or thin, they are alwayz standing beside you without a frown on their faces!!! They pull you out of the deepest sorrows in seconds..just with their hugs!!
I call them energisers, they push you out of your laziness...just for that cup of coffee.., they make you wait for a bus in the sun...just to be together!!!
I alwayz believed in making friends and sticking to them forever!!! (that might actualy sound sticky!! but id prefer a "fevicol ka jod" than being alone!!!) and believe me...im still in touch with my best buddy in kindergarden though we hav been away since more than 10 yrs!!!!!!!!
But what matters is that whether I am able to stand by them rather than stick to them!!! Coz its easy to make friends with whom you can hang around, but its tough to earn a friend.

I have seen people who call themselves Best of Friends, pretend to be the coolest around....but who cant stop bitching about each other at every possible opportunity!!
Friendship doesnt need show offs...if you need to be somebody else infront of a friend..then take my word for it...he/she is not a friend....and can never be until you start being yourself!
Friends are those who accept you just as you are...good looking or bad...intelligent or dumb... they like you for what you are not for who you are.
If you have someone like that, you are lucky....and if you dont, try being one yourself....you will soon get one like that!!!
Coming to "Love"...as I said earlier....im probably not the right one to quote on the feeling. But if you ask me, if I can love someone more than anything else on the planet (ofcourse apart from my family n all, and that anything else includes chocolates!!!), I'd say, its my friends.

Who else would come to your rescue at any time by the watch?? Who else would be ready to act like a clown just to make you laugh out hard? Who else would do anything you say, inspite of the fact that they wont get anything in return?? Who else would fight for you when somebody else tries to diminish you? Who else would own you (and your belongings as well! :D) as much as a friend would do?? Who else would understand your mood even when you dont feel like describing whatever you went through? Its a Friend!!

Owning a friend is like planting a tree and nurturing it. Friendship is a treasure for those who recognise... without which life is all dull and dim!!!

This one's for all my friends (wont name you guyz...coz incase i miss sumone...you'll kill me!!)
coz you brought me back to life!!!!

Its tough to be good.

Well when I say "Its tough to be good", I mean every word of it. And by good, ofcourse its my definition of being good!!!
I dont say that being good means you follow your parents and elders blindly, listen and do what is told to you. Go to temples everyday (thats a complete showoff!!! huh!!!), do household chores without an "uh"..(thats too much...i kno!!!)
You can only be good to yourself...by following your own principles. If you try to please people, you'll be good for some and bad for some. If only you are true to your own conscience, can you actualy be satisfied with yourself and "be good" ;-)
But loads of times, there are things and situations that deflect you from your goal, cease you from thinking about your values. And most of the times, when people in your vicinity come to know you well, they try to use your principles against you!!! Your strengths become your weaknesses.... and if you stick to your beliefs, you seem to be weak (but actualy you are brave enough to stand by yourself.)
And then, you have this impression of your's in place...that you are weak or to put it the other way...that you are "good"..(meaning that you are a complete fool!!!!). People take you for granted.. and you dont care about this coz you are in line with your beliefs!!!
But there has to be a limit....you cant let this continue...coz you cant see others take undue advantage of you. This is when you have to modify your values and principles!!! This is when you have to stop being "good"....and when this happens...you are happy!!! you are happy NOT being good!!! you feel contended hitting back on people (not physically hitting okay???)
And so you change....

When people say that Anger shows the strength of mind, Im skeptical. Is it true? Does losing your cool and composure mean that you have a strong character?

When you are angry, you dont seem to listen to anyone else and tend to take your decisions without giving a due thinking. In a fit of anger, you dont mind destroying the very things that were produced, nourished by you be it your material belongings or your relationships. You dont think rationally or logically..all you know is how to hurt others...and thats all that you do!

If I think of any merits of being angry, I am blank!! How can anger do good to you? If only you can channelize your anger towards something creative. But how am I supposed to remember that when I am at the tip of anger?

People who are not angered easily are often taken for granted. But in the long run its always them who can control their lives as well as tricky situations. They are also the ones who are approached for advices because their decisions are not made in a sudden surge of emotions but after a well thought process.

I believe, contrary to common belief (anger shows strength of mind), that the one who can control his anger is the bearer of a sound mind!! He is the one who knows how to tackle situations and knows the futility of losing his temper. Such a person is well balanced, objective and visionary. Happiness is just a state of mind..It isnt something that you can get if you buy something.. It comes naturally to you.. We can be happy if we chuck out anger from our lives. Not an easy task, but we have to start with it someday!

The Trainer
I recently had a training on Communication Processes with The Trainer who had THE ACCENT!! Fluency, correct usage of words, expressions, etc came quite naturally to him (Well that is quite obvious isnt it? He's a trainer afterall!!).He entered the room alongwith an aura that made all of us easy..smile on his face, his characteristic humour and ofcourse that unmistakable ponytail..(proving he could be supercool even in the corporate environment!!).I wont say that I didnt learn anything from him...I believe every single human being teaches us something or the other and throughout our life we keep on learning.., but I learnt more on life than on "Communication Processes" from him (and mind you, he has a tremendous hold on the subject). And the reason I mention The Trainer here is because I regained myself and my perspective after I met him. There are very few people who actually help you realise the purpose of your being, channelise your energies towards good and whose words you can dote upon. He is one of the few for me.
There is a famous line (4m a leading vehicle manufacturing company's advertisement).."The Only Thing That Stops You Is YOU". Coming to think of it, it makes sense... when I am happy, what keeps me from shouting with joy??? Its me!!The thought might be there in all of us but we never pondered over it...there is nothing on this planet that we cant do! The sooner we realise, the better.
Our lives have become one big CHASE...for wealth, material possessions and so on and so forth. And in this race, we dont get time to think about those who have stood the test of time with us. And most shockingly, some of us dont even realise who makes a difference in our lives. We keep on living a fake life till it becomes too late for us to mend relationships. At the end of the day each of us needs an emotional bondage (which we deliberately try to keep on dodging by showing our practicality. I mean, if we understand that we love someone, why dont we just go ahead and live with it? why do we have to think about the uncertain future? Just to show others that we are not emotionally insecure, we lose someone who would have made us secure!! ).
Well, emotions are something on which I can keep on writing, but essentially the idea here is that we all have someone who has the potential of changing our lives for the good...and we just have to identify him or her...!

Life..

Life...a simple four letter word that teaches us almost everything, but in a disguise.

When a child opens his eyes for the first time..he cannot bear the light..but he has to open those innocent eyes again and again, just to see the beautiful world around him. He finally overpowers the flash of light that blinded his eyes....Life teaches him to stand upto odds.

From such small and ignorable things, to big changes...Life always gives us a reason to learn, to adapt, to alter....

When you are happy, everything around seems happy because your perspective is such. You attract happiness and warmth and Smiles ofcourse!! And similar is the case when you are sad. But what happens when sadness approaches us, is that we end up making life miserable for us to live in. Life directs us to be what we want...happy or sad....it is just a state of mind we wish to be in. And we fail to choose happiness! Life tells us to do what we wish, to live it fully, to cherish every moment..but we dont bother. All we know is that we are SAD!! And everything around us actually becomes SAD!

Problems and adversities are just a part of life which tend to come and go like buses and trains (similar to a dialogue but true!!)...Its our mental stability (concerning how can we be happy and what do we need to become happy all over again) that rips apart the hardships. And this should be our motto.

Going forward, hope this blog really gets good articles.