Well, i dont really like cribbing about things... this didnt happen, that isnt what i wanted and all that stuff! But i understand that sometimes this is the only thing that you can do to make you feel good about something.
I have this friend of mine who is hell of an achiever but just cant stop cribbing!!! Hes in a premier B-School now and all that he complains now of is that his life is crippled and he doesnt get to eat what he wants!! I understand that staying away from home is difficult, specially for those who have been pampered at home like my friend, but dude you cant stay at home forever!! You have to step up and make your destiny. And its for your own future.
We all adjust to situations, try to fit into the surroundings for our survival just to get the best out of life. If we spend half the time cribbing about it, even the future that we envisaged wouldnt be as cheerful as we think it would have been. Coz, by the time we reach our "future", we pick up the habit of cribbing!! And then, it would be our relationships that we crib about.
Infact I think that its a vicious circle... we aspire for something, we crib about not getting that thing... we get it.. and then we crib about that thing. I have an instance here again, I have a friend, 'happily' in love with her boyfriend. When she was single, she used to call me everyday to express her disstisfaction of not getting a boyfriend!! (my mom almost thought I was having an affair!!). So, when her efforts paid off and she got herself a boyfriend.. the 1st 2-3 months were "lonely" for me :D! Soonafter, she resumed her daily routine of calling me and this time the discussions focussed on how insensitive her boyfriend was! Man!! Why cant we keep our expectations out of somethings??? She has till date 3 boyfriends to her credit and she even cribbs that!!!!
Anyway, the point of focus was cribbing and not my sweet friend! We all say that Im not the one who likes cribbing, but given situations, sometimes its the best thing to do to console yourself. Like, when you leave your debit card in the machine and back in the car you realise your loss. It was just becoz of the person next in queue that you had to hurry and so you left it there!!
My take: Crib Crib and Crib... but not always, not to everyone, not about everything.
Take responsibility of your actions. If something wrong has happened, it has happened coz you have let it happen. So dont blame others as if it never dawned on you. You knew it was wrong and you still let it happen. Digest the facts and go about minding your business. You'll be a happier person.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Trust
One of the pillars that gives strength to any relationship.. yes! It is Trust.
When do we know we trust someone?
Whenever I start thinking of him/her as a friend.. when I go to him/her with all my problems. When I tell him/her I am scared of a Lizard and I know that he/she would never play a prank on me with a lizard.
When I decide that I will go for the trip iff he/she would go. When I tell him/her I feel for that hottie!!
It is something which developes all by itself.. It is independent of the amount of time you spend together.. You cant compel anyone to trust you and similarly you yourself cant trust anyone and everyone. It "happens" with some special people.
When you trust you can do anything...inorder to keep up the trust. You surpass your abilities just to make those who trust and love you, gleam with pride. It feels great to be trusted.. to know people believe you. And whenever you are dim.. a simple "I believe you can do it" is a lifesaver!!
Trust is like a Mirror.. you trust and you get trust back. But if you break it, you never get it back. Its like the crack which can be mended but it never really gets ameliorated.
Its the basis of all relationships on Earth... without which life cant be worth living... without which there is a gap..a gap that can be filled by nothing else on the planet because until you trust someone you cant love him/her. Its necessitates the presence of harmony in your life.
The moral of this article is NOT to trust people blindly, but to NEVER break trust. Its the biggest wealth that anyone confers on you. Treasure it.
When do we know we trust someone?
Whenever I start thinking of him/her as a friend.. when I go to him/her with all my problems. When I tell him/her I am scared of a Lizard and I know that he/she would never play a prank on me with a lizard.
When I decide that I will go for the trip iff he/she would go. When I tell him/her I feel for that hottie!!
It is something which developes all by itself.. It is independent of the amount of time you spend together.. You cant compel anyone to trust you and similarly you yourself cant trust anyone and everyone. It "happens" with some special people.
When you trust you can do anything...inorder to keep up the trust. You surpass your abilities just to make those who trust and love you, gleam with pride. It feels great to be trusted.. to know people believe you. And whenever you are dim.. a simple "I believe you can do it" is a lifesaver!!
Trust is like a Mirror.. you trust and you get trust back. But if you break it, you never get it back. Its like the crack which can be mended but it never really gets ameliorated.
Its the basis of all relationships on Earth... without which life cant be worth living... without which there is a gap..a gap that can be filled by nothing else on the planet because until you trust someone you cant love him/her. Its necessitates the presence of harmony in your life.
The moral of this article is NOT to trust people blindly, but to NEVER break trust. Its the biggest wealth that anyone confers on you. Treasure it.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Love is for a moment, Friends are FOREVER!!!!
I mean it again!!!!
Im not talking about the feeling called "Love"...dont think I can do justice to it!!
What Im here for is friends... Id rather call them saviours...coz be whatever, through thick or thin, they are alwayz standing beside you without a frown on their faces!!! They pull you out of the deepest sorrows in seconds..just with their hugs!!
I call them energisers, they push you out of your laziness...just for that cup of coffee.., they make you wait for a bus in the sun...just to be together!!!
I alwayz believed in making friends and sticking to them forever!!! (that might actualy sound sticky!! but id prefer a "fevicol ka jod" than being alone!!!) and believe me...im still in touch with my best buddy in kindergarden though we hav been away since more than 10 yrs!!!!!!!!
But what matters is that whether I am able to stand by them rather than stick to them!!! Coz its easy to make friends with whom you can hang around, but its tough to earn a friend.
I have seen people who call themselves Best of Friends, pretend to be the coolest around....but who cant stop bitching about each other at every possible opportunity!!
Friendship doesnt need show offs...if you need to be somebody else infront of a friend..then take my word for it...he/she is not a friend....and can never be until you start being yourself!
Friends are those who accept you just as you are...good looking or bad...intelligent or dumb... they like you for what you are not for who you are.
If you have someone like that, you are lucky....and if you dont, try being one yourself....you will soon get one like that!!!
Coming to "Love"...as I said earlier....im probably not the right one to quote on the feeling. But if you ask me, if I can love someone more than anything else on the planet (ofcourse apart from my family n all, and that anything else includes chocolates!!!), I'd say, its my friends.
Who else would come to your rescue at any time by the watch?? Who else would be ready to act like a clown just to make you laugh out hard? Who else would do anything you say, inspite of the fact that they wont get anything in return?? Who else would fight for you when somebody else tries to diminish you? Who else would own you (and your belongings as well! :D) as much as a friend would do?? Who else would understand your mood even when you dont feel like describing whatever you went through? Its a Friend!!
Owning a friend is like planting a tree and nurturing it. Friendship is a treasure for those who recognise... without which life is all dull and dim!!!
This one's for all my friends (wont name you guyz...coz incase i miss sumone...you'll kill me!!)
coz you brought me back to life!!!!
Im not talking about the feeling called "Love"...dont think I can do justice to it!!
What Im here for is friends... Id rather call them saviours...coz be whatever, through thick or thin, they are alwayz standing beside you without a frown on their faces!!! They pull you out of the deepest sorrows in seconds..just with their hugs!!
I call them energisers, they push you out of your laziness...just for that cup of coffee.., they make you wait for a bus in the sun...just to be together!!!
I alwayz believed in making friends and sticking to them forever!!! (that might actualy sound sticky!! but id prefer a "fevicol ka jod" than being alone!!!) and believe me...im still in touch with my best buddy in kindergarden though we hav been away since more than 10 yrs!!!!!!!!
But what matters is that whether I am able to stand by them rather than stick to them!!! Coz its easy to make friends with whom you can hang around, but its tough to earn a friend.
I have seen people who call themselves Best of Friends, pretend to be the coolest around....but who cant stop bitching about each other at every possible opportunity!!
Friendship doesnt need show offs...if you need to be somebody else infront of a friend..then take my word for it...he/she is not a friend....and can never be until you start being yourself!
Friends are those who accept you just as you are...good looking or bad...intelligent or dumb... they like you for what you are not for who you are.
If you have someone like that, you are lucky....and if you dont, try being one yourself....you will soon get one like that!!!
Coming to "Love"...as I said earlier....im probably not the right one to quote on the feeling. But if you ask me, if I can love someone more than anything else on the planet (ofcourse apart from my family n all, and that anything else includes chocolates!!!), I'd say, its my friends.
Who else would come to your rescue at any time by the watch?? Who else would be ready to act like a clown just to make you laugh out hard? Who else would do anything you say, inspite of the fact that they wont get anything in return?? Who else would fight for you when somebody else tries to diminish you? Who else would own you (and your belongings as well! :D) as much as a friend would do?? Who else would understand your mood even when you dont feel like describing whatever you went through? Its a Friend!!
Owning a friend is like planting a tree and nurturing it. Friendship is a treasure for those who recognise... without which life is all dull and dim!!!
This one's for all my friends (wont name you guyz...coz incase i miss sumone...you'll kill me!!)
coz you brought me back to life!!!!
Its tough to be good.
Well when I say "Its tough to be good", I mean every word of it. And by good, ofcourse its my definition of being good!!!
I dont say that being good means you follow your parents and elders blindly, listen and do what is told to you. Go to temples everyday (thats a complete showoff!!! huh!!!), do household chores without an "uh"..(thats too much...i kno!!!)
You can only be good to yourself...by following your own principles. If you try to please people, you'll be good for some and bad for some. If only you are true to your own conscience, can you actualy be satisfied with yourself and "be good" ;-)
But loads of times, there are things and situations that deflect you from your goal, cease you from thinking about your values. And most of the times, when people in your vicinity come to know you well, they try to use your principles against you!!! Your strengths become your weaknesses.... and if you stick to your beliefs, you seem to be weak (but actualy you are brave enough to stand by yourself.)
And then, you have this impression of your's in place...that you are weak or to put it the other way...that you are "good"..(meaning that you are a complete fool!!!!). People take you for granted.. and you dont care about this coz you are in line with your beliefs!!!
But there has to be a limit....you cant let this continue...coz you cant see others take undue advantage of you. This is when you have to modify your values and principles!!! This is when you have to stop being "good"....and when this happens...you are happy!!! you are happy NOT being good!!! you feel contended hitting back on people (not physically hitting okay???)
And so you change....
I dont say that being good means you follow your parents and elders blindly, listen and do what is told to you. Go to temples everyday (thats a complete showoff!!! huh!!!), do household chores without an "uh"..(thats too much...i kno!!!)
You can only be good to yourself...by following your own principles. If you try to please people, you'll be good for some and bad for some. If only you are true to your own conscience, can you actualy be satisfied with yourself and "be good" ;-)
But loads of times, there are things and situations that deflect you from your goal, cease you from thinking about your values. And most of the times, when people in your vicinity come to know you well, they try to use your principles against you!!! Your strengths become your weaknesses.... and if you stick to your beliefs, you seem to be weak (but actualy you are brave enough to stand by yourself.)
And then, you have this impression of your's in place...that you are weak or to put it the other way...that you are "good"..(meaning that you are a complete fool!!!!). People take you for granted.. and you dont care about this coz you are in line with your beliefs!!!
But there has to be a limit....you cant let this continue...coz you cant see others take undue advantage of you. This is when you have to modify your values and principles!!! This is when you have to stop being "good"....and when this happens...you are happy!!! you are happy NOT being good!!! you feel contended hitting back on people (not physically hitting okay???)
And so you change....
Saturday, April 4, 2009
When people say that Anger shows the strength of mind, Im skeptical. Is it true? Does losing your cool and composure mean that you have a strong character?
When you are angry, you dont seem to listen to anyone else and tend to take your decisions without giving a due thinking. In a fit of anger, you dont mind destroying the very things that were produced, nourished by you be it your material belongings or your relationships. You dont think rationally or logically..all you know is how to hurt others...and thats all that you do!
If I think of any merits of being angry, I am blank!! How can anger do good to you? If only you can channelize your anger towards something creative. But how am I supposed to remember that when I am at the tip of anger?
People who are not angered easily are often taken for granted. But in the long run its always them who can control their lives as well as tricky situations. They are also the ones who are approached for advices because their decisions are not made in a sudden surge of emotions but after a well thought process.
I believe, contrary to common belief (anger shows strength of mind), that the one who can control his anger is the bearer of a sound mind!! He is the one who knows how to tackle situations and knows the futility of losing his temper. Such a person is well balanced, objective and visionary. Happiness is just a state of mind..It isnt something that you can get if you buy something.. It comes naturally to you.. We can be happy if we chuck out anger from our lives. Not an easy task, but we have to start with it someday!
When you are angry, you dont seem to listen to anyone else and tend to take your decisions without giving a due thinking. In a fit of anger, you dont mind destroying the very things that were produced, nourished by you be it your material belongings or your relationships. You dont think rationally or logically..all you know is how to hurt others...and thats all that you do!
If I think of any merits of being angry, I am blank!! How can anger do good to you? If only you can channelize your anger towards something creative. But how am I supposed to remember that when I am at the tip of anger?
People who are not angered easily are often taken for granted. But in the long run its always them who can control their lives as well as tricky situations. They are also the ones who are approached for advices because their decisions are not made in a sudden surge of emotions but after a well thought process.
I believe, contrary to common belief (anger shows strength of mind), that the one who can control his anger is the bearer of a sound mind!! He is the one who knows how to tackle situations and knows the futility of losing his temper. Such a person is well balanced, objective and visionary. Happiness is just a state of mind..It isnt something that you can get if you buy something.. It comes naturally to you.. We can be happy if we chuck out anger from our lives. Not an easy task, but we have to start with it someday!
Saturday, March 7, 2009
The Trainer
I recently had a training on Communication Processes with The Trainer who had THE ACCENT!! Fluency, correct usage of words, expressions, etc came quite naturally to him (Well that is quite obvious isnt it? He's a trainer afterall!!).He entered the room alongwith an aura that made all of us easy..smile on his face, his characteristic humour and ofcourse that unmistakable ponytail..(proving he could be supercool even in the corporate environment!!).I wont say that I didnt learn anything from him...I believe every single human being teaches us something or the other and throughout our life we keep on learning.., but I learnt more on life than on "Communication Processes" from him (and mind you, he has a tremendous hold on the subject). And the reason I mention The Trainer here is because I regained myself and my perspective after I met him. There are very few people who actually help you realise the purpose of your being, channelise your energies towards good and whose words you can dote upon. He is one of the few for me.
There is a famous line (4m a leading vehicle manufacturing company's advertisement).."The Only Thing That Stops You Is YOU". Coming to think of it, it makes sense... when I am happy, what keeps me from shouting with joy??? Its me!!The thought might be there in all of us but we never pondered over it...there is nothing on this planet that we cant do! The sooner we realise, the better.
Our lives have become one big CHASE...for wealth, material possessions and so on and so forth. And in this race, we dont get time to think about those who have stood the test of time with us. And most shockingly, some of us dont even realise who makes a difference in our lives. We keep on living a fake life till it becomes too late for us to mend relationships. At the end of the day each of us needs an emotional bondage (which we deliberately try to keep on dodging by showing our practicality. I mean, if we understand that we love someone, why dont we just go ahead and live with it? why do we have to think about the uncertain future? Just to show others that we are not emotionally insecure, we lose someone who would have made us secure!! ).
Well, emotions are something on which I can keep on writing, but essentially the idea here is that we all have someone who has the potential of changing our lives for the good...and we just have to identify him or her...!
I recently had a training on Communication Processes with The Trainer who had THE ACCENT!! Fluency, correct usage of words, expressions, etc came quite naturally to him (Well that is quite obvious isnt it? He's a trainer afterall!!).He entered the room alongwith an aura that made all of us easy..smile on his face, his characteristic humour and ofcourse that unmistakable ponytail..(proving he could be supercool even in the corporate environment!!).I wont say that I didnt learn anything from him...I believe every single human being teaches us something or the other and throughout our life we keep on learning.., but I learnt more on life than on "Communication Processes" from him (and mind you, he has a tremendous hold on the subject). And the reason I mention The Trainer here is because I regained myself and my perspective after I met him. There are very few people who actually help you realise the purpose of your being, channelise your energies towards good and whose words you can dote upon. He is one of the few for me.
There is a famous line (4m a leading vehicle manufacturing company's advertisement).."The Only Thing That Stops You Is YOU". Coming to think of it, it makes sense... when I am happy, what keeps me from shouting with joy??? Its me!!The thought might be there in all of us but we never pondered over it...there is nothing on this planet that we cant do! The sooner we realise, the better.
Our lives have become one big CHASE...for wealth, material possessions and so on and so forth. And in this race, we dont get time to think about those who have stood the test of time with us. And most shockingly, some of us dont even realise who makes a difference in our lives. We keep on living a fake life till it becomes too late for us to mend relationships. At the end of the day each of us needs an emotional bondage (which we deliberately try to keep on dodging by showing our practicality. I mean, if we understand that we love someone, why dont we just go ahead and live with it? why do we have to think about the uncertain future? Just to show others that we are not emotionally insecure, we lose someone who would have made us secure!! ).
Well, emotions are something on which I can keep on writing, but essentially the idea here is that we all have someone who has the potential of changing our lives for the good...and we just have to identify him or her...!
Friday, February 27, 2009
Life..
Life...a simple four letter word that teaches us almost everything, but in a disguise.
When a child opens his eyes for the first time..he cannot bear the light..but he has to open those innocent eyes again and again, just to see the beautiful world around him. He finally overpowers the flash of light that blinded his eyes....Life teaches him to stand upto odds.
From such small and ignorable things, to big changes...Life always gives us a reason to learn, to adapt, to alter....
When you are happy, everything around seems happy because your perspective is such. You attract happiness and warmth and Smiles ofcourse!! And similar is the case when you are sad. But what happens when sadness approaches us, is that we end up making life miserable for us to live in. Life directs us to be what we want...happy or sad....it is just a state of mind we wish to be in. And we fail to choose happiness! Life tells us to do what we wish, to live it fully, to cherish every moment..but we dont bother. All we know is that we are SAD!! And everything around us actually becomes SAD!
Problems and adversities are just a part of life which tend to come and go like buses and trains (similar to a dialogue but true!!)...Its our mental stability (concerning how can we be happy and what do we need to become happy all over again) that rips apart the hardships. And this should be our motto.
Going forward, hope this blog really gets good articles.
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